So many things I could tell you about hair!
Here is something that I have always wanted to tell you...
Love your hair the way it is! It is perfect just the way it is.
Whether it is thick, fine, curly, wavy, straight, dark, or red, no matter what it looks like - love your hair the way it was given to you! Yes, hair is a gift. It gives us our very own identity, it shapes us and reveals a lot about who we are. It is perfect the way it grows from your body. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise.
Hair signifies health, vitality, beauty, and passion. It is a barometer for hormones and mood, a mood maker, and an indicator of our vitality and so much more. It is simply an important part of ourselves.
Sensitive people, who are in tune with nature, even notice that their hair acts as antennas. Body-conscious people with healthy hair actually perceive their surroundings through their hair, with their hair acting as sensors. You can even find old emotions in your hair. So many experiences are stored there. I have often witnessed a sense of relief and ease in my customers when I am cutting their hair. And this relief is then followed by the joy of letting go and of new beginnings, and by exhilaration. Regardless of how much or how little is cut off.
It's more about the way in which it is cut!
It is crucial that I touch their hair calmly and carefully, and treat it with respect. It is also essential to treat the person as a whole, sensing and listening to what they want. Then, when both sides are ready to silently enter into this process, a special connection is created between us, that allows us to communicate non-verbally on a much deeper level. Within such a process, it is possible to quietly let go of the old and welcome the new. A feeling of true pleasure and joy will emerge. Depending on where the person stands in life, different emotions will dissolve. The result is a sense of relief, creating more space within the body. If you treat the person and their hair in this way, the hair will grow better, it will become thicker and exude vitality, and the person will feel much better in general.
Let us now focus on you: how do you feel about your hair?
Observe yourself for a week. Observe yourself and the daily thoughts you have about your hair. As you wake up in the morning, begin by being mindful and noting it. I do not mean that you should judge but simply register it. At the end of the week, you will then draw a conclusion. I am curious as to what you will notice. To be honest, I would not be surprised if it turns out less positive than you expected. Why? Because there is this small, but highly critical voice inside of us, that can be very powerful and makes us feel small. If that is not the case for you, then count yourself lucky.
If you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, look within yourself and find out what this thought is doing to you. One thing I can say with certainty is that you will eventually start believing this voice and your general well-being will be affected. So treat yourself with respect and love. If you catch yourself judging yourself negatively, simply shift your focus to something positive that lifts you up instead. Try to intentionally do this for a while, and observe the changes within yourself.
To be clear, this inner critic always has good intentions, namely to protect us. That is how this mechanism developed in our childhood. As adults, it is now our task to be vigilant and to make sure that the thoughts we are having actually help us and make us stronger. Incidentally, in my experience, we are often unsatisfied with our hair, because we are constantly comparing it. Comparing it with how it used to be or with the hair of other people and how they wear it.
This, of course, varies from person to person. But, if we are honest, this generally holds true for everyone. The hair is too thin, too thick, too curly, not curly enough, you name it. I frequently witness a certain discontent, regardless of age. Incidentally, this goes hand in hand with treating the rest of our body in a similar fashion. This does not only concern our hair. However, we think we can get away with wreaking havoc on our hair because we consider it to be a matter that we can treat as we see fit. After all, we do not feel any pain, and it always grows back.
Emulating ideals and fads can also be stressful on so many levels. And I am not talking about the inspiration you can draw from things. If anything, I consider that to be playful and enriching. But following and copying something instead of drawing from yourself and the things that define you, and enjoying what you have, that sort of faking is what I find exhausting. I look around me and see so much mistreated hair. I mean, ultimately this is about self-love, self-acceptance, self-determination, and self-care.
How self-determined and conscious do you want to be? What motivates you? What inspires you?
Leave your hair alone every once in a while, or devote a little more time and attention to it.
Pay attention to the products you choose, from shampoo to styling products, and to the way you comb your hair. Make sure to brush it with care, take care of your scalp. A healthy scalp means healthy hair! Treat yourself to the best of what nature has to offer and switch to purely natural personal care products and tools, such as combs made from wood or natural bristle hairbrushes. Your hair will thank you for it, by presenting itself in its full splendour. Thus, you can wear your hair with pride and it resonates with your whole being.
Take a deep breath, and consciously dedicate some time to yourself. You are worth it!